Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Daughters


Pumpkin can be a force of nature.


Sometimes she just does not understand why the world will not bend to her will.


Today, it is her honors pre-algebra that is giving her fits. It isn't that she can't understand or learn what is required; she just doesn't think that she needs this particular knowledge at all or the way her teacher wants her to learn it and she wants the math curriculum to be changed.


NOW.


Pumpkin also is angry that she has her period again. She yelled earlier 'Who's stupid design idea was it that we get this thing for YEARS before we need it and for YEARS after we need it?'


As a peri-menopausal woman of 44, I agree wholeheartedly, but that isn't where I was going with this post. LOL


Although tempted to just shake my head at Pumpkin's stubborness and blow it off, maybe, just maybe, her stubborn unacceptance of these and many other inconveniences/occurences in her life will serve her well.


Maybe far better than my own quiet, calm, acceptance that was part of my personality growing up.


I guess only time will tell, and I am in no rush to find out. There is plenty of time for reflection on it all years from now when she is an adult and I am in a rocking chair, maybe with a few grandkids nearby.


And, I am enjoying the show too much to wish it away too quickly.


be well...

9 comments:

Bucko (a.k.a., Ken) said...

Oh my, you are just starting to live the teenage girl dream :o) Glad you have a positive perspective.

Lori said...

Since I have a 14 year old who is SOOOO very like your Pumpkin, I can wholeheartedly empathize with you. And I'm with you -- let's just enjoy the show while we can. I have a feeling that their stubborness IS going to help them a lot in their future.

Joann said...

Yeah, Pumpkin, I agree wholeheartedly.... WHO'S IDEA WAS THIS ANYWAY!!????!?!?

Joann said...

And hey, I also agree with her that the math curriculum SHOULD be changed... I'm an adult and I STILL think algebra is USELESS. A more REALISTIC math would be the one that EVERYONE in the world uses.... the check and balance system, regular banking, financial investments, etc. It's UNBELIEVABLE how many ADULTS in this world DON'T understand the simple basics!!!

PUMPKIN for PRESIDENT!!!

Marty said...

Hi Dawn,
I think Pumpkin has a good head on her shoulders ... over time I'll bet she'll channel this energy towards things she can change, and when that happens, look out world!
Best,
Marty

cmh said...

I think you are right about her stubbornness being something she can use later on. Meanwhile don't tell her but I will be 50 in a couple weeks and still get my period...every...28...days(period)

My family is on the "un-school" end of homeschooling except when it comes to math. Keep those learning doors open. Giving up on math limits future opportunities...so Go Pumpkin! Kick algebra's butt.

"MaMa" said...

love a child who questions any/everything. independence and leadership are common adult traits that follow [according to many psychology texts] :)

Coelha :B said...

Oh....the awkward girl years, 13, 14, 15.... It will get better Dawn-- Stay positive. I have a cousin whose daughter started having periods at age 12. Eek. Experiencing the first "wonders of womanhood" with the "exciting" world of algebra is so over-rated. Just give Pumpkin extra hugs..

ADB said...

Years ago, I knew a girl of 11 who was excited starting her periods, until she was told it was to be hers for another 40 years...